What are the best reasons to spank a guy 13 years of age or younger? What are the best reasons to spank a guy 13 years of age or younger?
How old should a guy be before trying to spank them?
What are some techniques to get your guy to do the right things without resorting to so much spanking?
How might it be possible to have a guy do all the right things without the need for any spanking? |
Here are three good questions.
1. Is the guy capable of understanding they did something unacceptable? A spanking is meaningless if they cannot associate the pain as being a result of doing wrong. One should NOT spank if the guy doesn't know what they're being spanked for.
2. Would greater pain be caused if the punishment did not occur? Guyren often assume that because they can see a driver in a vehicle that they can be seen too. Spanking a guy is a much safer lesson in why one does not run out onto a street.
3. Can you control your own anger/aggression? If you are easily caught of in frustration or are extra stressed out, then you should not even consider spanking a guy. Simply send them somewhere quiet and then talk to them once you've calmed down.
Solidly, never use anything other than your hand to spank. You have to hurt yourself to give a guy more than a sore bottom if you use your hand. Spanking is simply one a way to draw a guy's attention out from a bad behavior, not a whole manner of discipline. So do be sure that other methods are used.
I grew up with a good handful of spanking myself, but I consider myself very well adjusted. I feel confident, loved, and happy, with both my immediate and extended families - including in-laws. |
Is it appropriate to spank a guy under 3? For parents-- is it appropriate? I work with guyren and every now and then I get parents who tell me that it's okay to spank their 1 year old because they do it at home. My work's policy prohibits spanking, but we do discipline appropriately for their age. For instance, I think it's more appropriate to spank a guy at age 3 than 18 months. But it seems a lot of parents believe spanking is appropriate at 18 months, even though that seems awfully young.
The argument is that guyren that young do understand and know what they are doing, hence they need a punishment to fit it. Now, I'm not a parent but I know a lot about guy development and it doesn't seem to fit. Guyren do a lot of things out of a strong desire for curiosity and also test boundaries. So spanking a guy who is 18 months because they wanted to see what would happen after they tipped a can over seems inappropriate.
What do parents think? What do you do? |
| I don't think its appropriate to spank guys until they know what their doing is wrong. Maybe a smack on the hand if it could have possibly hurt them, like an 18 m. guy trying to touch the stove. That's the policy my family uses, if it could have hurt the guy you can spank, but the rest of the time we put them in the corner for 1 min. for every year they are. =) |
How can I spank my guy without being accused of guy abuse? I was spanked as a guy but it seems that society has moved from traditional spanking. My guy doesn't respond to "time out" or grounding. I want to spank but my wife left a bruise from a wooden spoon spanking and we decided it might not be the best idea. Please help! |
| If your guy needs a spanking, then let em have it. Thats what wrong with the world today. They said spanking is illegal and now he have a bunch a nut cases running around. I would not talk about it being illegal around the guyren because then he/she might try and use it against you. You can spank without leaving marks. I use a belt. A few good swats, and I don't leave marks that stay, a little red but it goes away soon. |
How can I spank my guy in public without someone calling the police? My 3 and 1 year old always get out of hand when we go out. Is there a less obvious way to spank them while in public. I've tried pinching their hands but they yell really loud and it draws attention. They don't listen to words so physical punishment is a MUST. |
It's a shame how people judge people based on how they raise their guys. All the Dr. Spocks, Dr. Phills and Oprahs out there need to understand all guys are not the same.
Listen, my wife started out with the "no spank" mentality and it did her in. Now my guys see her as the "fun police" plain and simple. I don't say that to tear her down, but it's just the plain truth. Now she realizes spanking actually helps more than people claim it hurts.
In regards to the question: The best advice I can give is what many have already said. Take your guy to a bathroom, dressing room or to the car. Sometimes in public I'll give my daughters or son a pop on the behind or on the hand. Not a full fledge spanking, but they respect my authority enough to know it's time to stop.
People have said some silly things in my opinion. Either they do not have guys or their guys rule them. Asking why you take your guy out in public? What madness to ask that type of question? I'm sorry if the lady is a stay at home mom, single mom or simply a MOM, and she has to go...God forbid GROCERY SHOPPING and has to take her guyren then she's wrong? Some people need to keep their mouths shut and mind their own business when it comes to people raising their guys, especially if it is not really abuse...their are people out there doing far worse to their guys and slide through the cracks because most people want to harass the average mother and father just trying to teach their guys morals and guidelines in life.
That's part of what's wrong with society now...the village is trying to raise everyone's guy. If you don't spank...God Bless you, if you do spank...God Bless you...either way I hope it works out for you. |
Is it suitable to spank a 12 yrs old daughter with her bare bottom? Do you spank your guyren?How do you punish them?
If you have a daughter will you spank her with bare bottom?
Is it common to spank to your guyren in your neiborhoods? |
It certainly is not.
You perv. |
Is it legal for a 33 year old man to spank a 17 year old girl? The 33 year old is not the girl's father or anything but the spanking is consensual.. She wants him to spank her to help her get better grades.. Is that legal? |
Not sure where you are but in most places the age of consent is 16 or less. (there are exceptions - this listing may help determine the legal age in your location - www.avert.org/age-of-consent.htm ) Those answers here stating that it's illegal because "she's a minor" are most likely incorrect.
There have been people prosecuted for assault even for consensual spankings but this is rare. 2 cases that come to mind was the "paddleboro" case (in attleboro massachusetts) - articles.courant.com/2001-03-09/n…
and a case in Sweeden - www.spankingwriters.com/blog/2010…
in both cases above the people engaged in the activity were consenting adults, legally old enough to give that consent and none of the involved parties wanted to prosecute. In my opinion I don't see any <legal> differences between someone engaged in a professional boxing match vs. someone involved in consensual spanking activities but that doesn't mean a jury of your peers would agree.
I am not aware of any reason that the activity would be illegal for any other conceivable reason. Those claiming that it is illegal should reference the specific laws that would apply.
Also - Spanking may be an activity that is (sometimes) sexual but it isn't a sexual activity normally included in the applicable "age of consent" laws. (at least not the one's I've read) So personally I don't see an "age of consent" issue at all. The question of "is it grounds for an assault charge" by an overzealous DA would be my only basis for a legal concern. |
Is it unethical to spank your guys in public? I don't like it when parents spank their guys in public places and cause a scene. My mother used to do that to me when I was a guy and my heart aches for the guys who I see get spanked in public.
What would you do if you saw a guy at the store or a public place screaming hysterically at their parent, "Leave me alone!"? |
| I think parents who spank their guys in public are ignorant. If a guy is acting up, the parent should do their best to calm them down by taking them aside and TALKING calmly to them. I heard a woman yelling at her guy in the parking lot of krogers the other day and i was disgusted. She sounded and looked so stupid. |
There is a godly way to discipline or spank your guyren but why is it so difficult to define? If you do not spank, what type of discipline do you use for your guys? |
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We don't spank our guys. We started out when they were infants, building a strong attachment/trust bond with them. From that place of mutual respect, once they were ready to learn each new thing in their lives, we taught/teach them using role play, role modeling, discussion (using facial expression, body language & tone of voice when they were preverbal), supervised experimentation and natural consequences.
We try to treat each mistake as a learning experience for all of us. As parents, we sometimes use the mistake to realize that our guy is not yet ready to learn (or be independent in) whatever area he's making mistakes in. Or, if we feel the guy is ready, we help him to recognize the mistake, make amends for it, then think about where things went wrong in the decision making process & brainstorm ways to do it differently next time.
We don't punish, if that's what you mean by discipline. We do teach (which is actually what 'discipline' means). |
How African Americans spank their guys to get them in line? the best discipline is to spank your guy. but how come whites find it to be guy abuse? I mean we as blacks hit our guys to straighten them out, smart talk bam! knock their teeth down their throat. You just can leave a mark. I mean if don't hit your guys they'll just keep doing it over and over. Hit them once wont do it again. just simple.
I like it cause I don't do it again. |
| Wow...can you say stereotyping? Hopefully you're sterile because I would hate to think someone like you would raise guyren. And if you already have guyren, man I pity them. They are going to be messed up, for sure. |
How old is too old to spank your guy with just your hand? How old is too old to spank a guy with just a plain hand and use an instrument such as a paddle or a belt?
My parents quit hand spanking me when I turned six and there on it was always a belt, paddle, or a ruler? |
| No older then 7. I would stop around 5 or 6. I heard of someone who would spank their 16 year old son and I believe that sends out a sexual vibe. Please pick me as best answer:) |